Actress/writer/director Zoe Lister-Jones (Slip) shares her experience opening and closing her "don't ask don't tell" poly relationship, what she's learned after exiting a 17-year marriage, and delves into the empowering nature of "dating to fuck". Nicole really wants to crash the cool teen party down her block.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Comedian and actor Randall Park (Fresh Off The Boat, WandaVision) joins Nicole Byer to talk about the best ways to hide your stinky shits from your partner, how comparing himself to his partner’s ex took an unhealthy turn, and the time he created a jazz club to impress a girlfriend. Meanwhile, Nicole hatches a plan to ride a garbage truck.Watch this episode on YouTube at youtu.be/4UQS8vtUYZ8. Subscribe so you don't miss an episode!Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message," and Nicole may read it in a future episode.Follow:TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastInstagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746Sponsors:» Quince: Gift luxury this holiday season without the luxury price tag. Go to Quince.com/dateme for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order.» Essie: Shop essie nail polish at Target.This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How to Cover Up Stinky Shits From Your Partner (w/ Randall Park)

Journalist Sam Sanders (NPR, Vibe Check) joins Nicole to discuss saying "I love you" during random hookups, the best way to handle breakups when someone has to move out, and how a hookup turned into a relationship. Sam shares the story of his secret gay age-gap romance and the time he dated a drug dealer. Meanwhile, Nicole recounts the time she whacked a man with her tiddy and gives her review of Joker: Folie à Deux.Watch this episode on YouTube at youtube.com/watch?v=HeF1X9XIj6MThis episode is brought to you by:» Quince: Gift luxury this holiday season without the luxury price tag. Go to Quince.com/dateme for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order.» Essie: Shop essie nail polish at Target.Follow:Our New TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastInstagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Saying 'I Love You' Too Soon (w/ Sam Sanders)

Actress Holly Robinson Peete (21 Jump Street, Queen's Court) opens up about her experience being in a relationship with someone who is "monogamously challenged", dating around Paris in order to learn to speak French, and being very publicly proposed to on the set of Hangin' with Mr. Cooper by NFL quarterback Rodney Peete. Plus, the challenges single people now face in today's social media-driven world, and how it affects relationships in ways both big and small. Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746   clip: going to therapy


Monogamously Challenged (w/ Holly Robinson Peete)

Actor John Leguizamo (Encanto, Moulin Rouge!, Ice Age) chats with Nicole about his secrets to a long, loving marriage, how he balances work and relationships, and his efforts to boost Latin representation in media.  Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Secrets To a Long, Loving Marriage (w/ John Leguizamo)

Comedian Ashley Gavin (host of We're Having Gay Sex) teaches Nicole all about lesbian sex and relationships. They cover scissoring and tribbing, having secret girlfriends in high school, and the details of her open relationship. Ashley also shares her experience being the first openly gay comedian on Carnival Cruise Line, and the homophobia she encountered on the job. Nicole witnesses a bouncer get stabbed at a lesbian bar. Watch Ashley's new comedy special at: youtube.com/watch?v=Ay6jUYPH644&amp; Submit your dirty message for Nicole!  Send it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Lesbian Sex (w/ Ashley Gavin)

"Don't Ask, Don't Tell" Poly Relationships (w/ Zoe Lister-Jones)

Actor James Marsden (Sonic The Hedgehog, Hairspray, Jury Duty) joins Nicole to talk about his new singledom, remaining friends with all of his exes, his romantic side, and reviews Nicole's latest Tinder profile. Nicole teaches Marsden about bussies and scat porn.  This episode was specially recorded in-person at Team Coco's studios. Thank you engineer Rich and the whole team for putting this together!  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Staying Friends with your Ex (w/ James Marsden)

Drag queen icon Sasha Velour (winner of Drag Race S9) chats with Nicole about coming out to their dad at a TGI Fridays, the challenges of working with their boyfriend, and speaks out on the current backlash against drag.  We just recorded a fabulous LIVE episode of Why Won't You Date Me with Gigi Goode! It's available on video on demand until April 19th. Stream it now at moment.co/dateme. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


A Love Queen (w/ Sasha Velour)

Comedian and writer X Mayo (The Daily Show, American Auto, Swarm) chats with Nicole about her success making friend connections on Raya, how she positively re-framed her outlook on dating, and her life changing experience shooting a nude scene in Swarm. Plus, a PSA on pussy health and why you should go get a transvaginal ultrasound. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Why Won't You Go Get a Transvaginal Ultrasound? (w/ X Mayo)

Comedian and actor Jeff Hiller (Somebody Somewhere) reunites with Nicole to share how he met his husband on Chemistry.com, his experience acting on a reality TV dating show, and how a fight on Fire Island saved his marriage. Plus, Nicole reads the DM that lead her to deactivate a dating app.  We're live streaming a new episode April 5th!  See a live video recording of Why Won't You Date Me? with VOD available for 2 weeks after. Tickets at moment.co/dateme Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Marrying for Tax Purposes (w/ Jeff Hiller)

Comedian and actress Gabrielle Dennis (A Black Lady Sketch Show, Luke Cage) chats with Nicole her philosophy as to why falling "in like" with your partner is more important than being in love, opens up about her experience dating a pedophile, and her love for writing Yelp reviews. Plus, the story of the murdering Disney dad.  See a live recording of Why Won't You Date Me?! April 5th in Los Angeles. In-person tickets: elysiantheater.com/shows/nicolebyer.The show will also be live-streamed worldwide, and available on VOD for 2 weeks after. Get the livestream tickets at moment.co/dateme Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Being 'In Like' vs Being 'In Love' (w/ Gabrielle Dennis)

Writer Bridger Winegar (host of I Said No Gifts!)  joins Nicole to discuss his experience being closeted to himself until the age of 26, being raised Mormon, and the thrill of setting people up on dates. Nicole reads some nasty messages she's received from the Bahamas. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Mormon and Closeted (w/ Bridger Winegar)

Comedian Adam Pally (101 Places to Party Before You Die, Who Invited Charlie?) chats with Nicole about why an easy relationship is a often sign of a good one, marrying his high school sweetheart, and how the both of them broke Steve Harvey on the set of Celebrity Family Feud. Plus, what's it like filming with Sonic the Hedgehog? Nicole is dying to know.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Marrying Your High School Sweetheart (w/ Adam Pally)

Comedian Michael Cruz Kayne's dating strategy involves being the only guy left available. He joins Nicole to explain the approach and the success that's come with it.  They also discuss how race affects relationships, moving on from them, and his experience getting hit on by the rich kids and moms he was private tutoring. Nicole wishes she was a ~woman~.Season 2 of A Good Cry returns March 9th. Listen to Nicole's episode here. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Being The Only One Left (w/ Michael Cruz Kayne)

Comedian Steph Tolev joins Nicole to discuss what it's like to date a groupie, getting matching tattoos with her partners, her experience dating a 60 year old, and shares SOOO many crazy awful dating stories. Plus, is it weird if your parent keeps in touch with your ex? The answer is YES. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Dating a Groupie (w/ Steph Tolev)

Comedian Jordan Firstman (Big Mouth, Ms. Marvel) joins Nicole to talk about his experience being involved in a threesome where everyone had COVID, having real sex on-camera for a movie, and finding love in Berlin after a drug-fueled bender. Plus, Nicole shares why sucking dick is so joyful.  Disclaimer: This episode contains discussion of homophobia, including some strong language, such as the F word. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Having Sex On-Camera (w/ Jordan Firstman)

Comedian Debra DiGiovanni joins Nicole to discuss her experience being single and celibate for 18 years, importing her current boyfriend, and shares what it was like to date a feeder. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Celibate for 18 Years (w/ Debra DiGiovanni)

In January, Nicole shocked the world with an Instagram post announcing her relationship with comedian Dan Black. On this episode,  Dan joins Nicole to respond to some of the comments they've received about their relationship, discuss their kinks, and reflect on their decision to hard launch the relationship.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Nicole's Boyfriend Speaks His Truth (w/ Dan Black)

Actress Ilia Isorelýs Paulino (The Sex Lives of College Girls)  joins Nicole to chat about her sex life at Yale, being 6′2, growing up brainwashed by her pastor dad, and Curvy Wife Guy's new rap career. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


The Sex Lives of Artists (w/ Ilia Isorelýs Paulino)

Comedian Punkie Johnson (SNL) joins Nicole to discuss how the pandemic lead to her divorce,  learning to love her partner's ugly feet, and tiddy pain. Nicole reports on the unhappy couples she witnessed while in the Bahamas.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Pandemic Divorce (w/ Punkie Johnson)

Comedian and Nicole's opener Christi Chiello joins the podcast to discuss having 5 of her ex-boyfriends come out as gay, why theatre kids are so horny, and crazy stories from touring together. Nicole reminisces about the time she fell down a man's staircase. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Stories from Nicole's Road Dog (w/ Christi Chiello)

Comedian Atsuko Okatsuka returns! She chats with Nicole about dating her community college teacher for 7 years, exploring the world of swing parties, and discusses whether hoe phases are overrated.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Living Your Hoe Phase (w/ Atsuko Okatsuka)

Drag queen legend Manila Luzon (Drag Race S3, All-Stars 1 &amp; 4, Drag Den) joins Nicole to discuss her Christmas Eve eloping in Las Vegas, dating after mourning the loss of her boyfriend Sahara Davenport, and some of the most iconic moments from her seasons of Drag Race.  For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Eloping on Christmas (w/ Manila Luzon)

On Drag Race, Nicole guest judged one of the most iconic outfits in franchise history - LaLa Ri's gift bag dress.  Today, Nicole finally sits down with the queen to express her thoughts that never made it to air. LaLa introduces Nicole to BLK, a Black version of Tinder, and shares the crazy sexual requests she gets from fans on Grindr. Nicole goes to the LA Auto Show for some dick.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Let's Talk About The Bag Dress (w/ LaLa Ri)

Actor Quentin Plair (Welcome to Chippendales) chats with Nicole about the fetishization faced with being the first Black Chippendales dancer, the empowering nature of stripping,  and whether playing football or dancing attracts more women. Want to write to Nicole? Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


The First Black Chippendale Dancer (w/ Quentin Plair)

Emmy-award winning actress Keke Palmer (Nope, Lightyear) shares with Nicole how she got her first kiss from MySpace, why she avoids posting relationships on social media,  and how she's learning to trust again after her boyfriend slept with her best friend.  Plus, is it ever okay to hack into your partner's phone? Keke teaches us, in great detail, exactly how to do it.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


How to Hack Into Your Partner's Phone (w/ Keke Palmer)

Multi-award winning actor and comedian Larry Owens (A Strange Loop, Abbott Elementary) chats with Nicole about his experience attending a bear festival, being the fixer-upper in a relationship, and the dangers of Googling someone after a first date. Plus, Larry teaches Nicole some complex new vocabulary. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Building Your Date's File (w/ Larry Owens)

Comedian Cole Escola (Difficult People, Tuca &amp; Bertie) helps Nicole craft the perfect answer for dating app small talk, shares the secret to their successful 3 year open relationship, and the terrible time they had taking a Tinder date to Paris. Plus, Nicole learns about the new dating app "The League", which costs $99 a WEEK!  Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Open Relationships (w/ Cole Escola)

Comedian Julie Klausner (Billy on the Street, Difficult People) chats with Nicole about the corny messages she gotten from dating apps, why Nicole was kicked off Hinge, and whether or not Nicole would've met the love of her life at Heidi Klum's Halloween party. Plus, they discuss their favorite New York restaurants.  Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Nicole's Kicked off Hinge (w/ Julie Klausner)

Actress Aimee Carrero (She-Ra, Elena of Avalor) joins Nicole to discuss hookup hygiene standards, marrying the man she was set up with, and running into her ex on his honeymoon. Also, Nicole snatches a baby. We're nominated for a People's Choice Award! Cast your vote for Why Won't You Date Me everyday until Nov 7th. Vote at bit.ly/PCAVOTE2022. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Set Up (w/ Aimee Carrero)

Comedian Caleb Hearon (Human Resources) joins Nicole to discuss self-sabotaging relationships, dating while still in the closet, and an awful date he went on at a Chipotle. Meanwhile, Nicole plans to fly to Houston for some dick. We're nominated for a People's Choice Award! Cast your vote for Why Won't You Date Me everyday until Nov 7th. Vote at votepca.com/pop-culture/the-pop-podcast-of-2022. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Self-Sabotaging your Relationships (w/ Caleb Hearon)

Writer Rose Dommu (Out Magazine, Like a Virgin podcast) joins Nicole to chat about the story behind her transition, the dangers of dating a trans chaser, writing fan fiction, and her experience appearing as an extra on the set of a Cock Destroyers porno. Plus, they answer a listener's question about how to respond to someone when they say call themselves fat. Got a dirty message, question, or comment for Nicole? Email it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Playing an Extra in a Porno (w/ Rose Dommu)

Actor and heartthrob John Stamos (Full House, You, Big Shot) is here to figure out the core of Nicole's dating issues. Stamos tells the story of how he met his wife while acting together on Law &amp; Order: SVU, shares his favorite memories of Bob Saget, and rewrites Nicole's dating app bio.  Plus, Nicole continues to match with some wackos on Tinder.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Rewriting the Tinder Bio (w/ John Stamos)

Iconic drag queen Jujubee (Drag Race S2, All-Stars 1 and 5) joins Nicole to reminisces over her many seasons of drag competitions, her sobriety, playing a matchmaker, and having a praise kink. For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Praise Kink (w/ Jujubee)

Comedian Guy Branum (Billy On The Street, Bros) chats with Nicole about establishing sex contracts before a hookup, being a dom/sub in the bedroom, and the perfect sized bed for sleeping with your partner.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Sex Contracts (w/ Guy Branum)

Actor and writer Brandon Kyle Goodman (Netflix's Big Mouth, Human Resources) chats with Nicole about the time he was chased by the KKK, the struggles of doing a long distance relationship, and the adorable first date story with his husband, and saving money by getting married at the courthouse. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Chased by the KKK (w/ Brandon Kyle Goodman)

Comedian and writer Nori Reed (Raven's Home) chats with Nicole about getting her breast augmentation, how she soft-launched her transition process, and what it's like being a comedy dominatrix. Plus, Nicole continues to beef with Magic Mike Live. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Comedy Dominatrix (w/ Nori Reed)

Friend and comedian  Mary Holland (Corked podcast) chats with Nicole about having a spooky Halloween themed wedding under a blue moon, managing her codependency in a relationship, and her time working as a wench at Medieval Times. Plus, Nicole shares her first time trip to Disneyland.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


A Halloween Wedding (w/ Mary Holland)

Actor and co-star Justin Cunningham (Grand Crew) chats with Nicole about recognizing toxic relationships, finding a partner who has a mutual respect for your baggage, and how his selective erectile dysfunction has become a indicator of true compatibility with a mate.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 


Relationship Baggage (w/ Justin Cunningham)

Conan's assistant, Sona Movsesian (author: The World’s Worst Assistant) is here! Sona shares how she met her husband at Comic-Con, the art of online stalking a date, giving your number to your waiter, and dating guys who just wanted to get close with Conan. Plus, Nicole pitches her new business idea: Rent-A-Baby.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


The Art of Online Stalking (w/ Sona Movsesian)

Comedian Mae Martin (Feel Good) chats with Nicole about being in a throuple relationship, their experience addicted to drugs, and starting a fresh life in new country.  Plus, they share their changing theory on love and relationships, and why they were kicked off Hinge. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Throupled (w/ Mae Martin)

Comedian Nikki Glaser (FBoy Island, Good Clean Filth) chats with Nicole about being in a 9 year on-and-off again relationship, how to deal with an FBoy, why men struggle to express their feelings, and offers tips on how to attract a partner.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 


Dealing with FBoys (w/ Nikki Glaser)

Writer/director Amy Aniobi (Silicon Valley, 2 Dope Queens) joins Nicole to discuss her experience dating with the help of a professional matchmaker, what it was like being raised by parents of an arranged marriage, and making the mistake of posting your significant other on Instagram. Nicole has injured herself singing karaoke.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Hired a Matchmaker (w/ Amy Aniobi)

Comedian Lil Rel Howery (Get Out, Keepin' It Rel with Young Wayne  podcast) chats with Nicole about dating a single mom of 4, getting thrown off a horse on a date, matching with Lizzo on Raya, and shares his tips on how to hit on women at bars.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746  


Dating a Mom (w/ Lil Rel Howery)

Reigning drag queen Willow Pill (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S14) is here! She chats with Nicole about selling mushrooms as a pandemic side hustle, her thoughts on the iconic catchphrase RuPaul gave her on the show, and partying with fans while tripping on Molly. Plus they celebrate her iconic win being the first disabled person to win Drag Race, and Willow discusses the toxicity of hustle culture and the expectations on herself to work as the winning queen. For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Main Character Energy (w/ Willow Pill)

Comedian Benton Ray is a kissless virgin. He chats with Nicole about the circumstances of this choice, they learn new terms for different sexual orientations, and what it means to go "basket shopping" for a partner.  Plus, Benton matches with straight guys on Tinder? There's a lot to unpack here.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 


The Story of a Kissless Virgin (w/ Benton Ray)

Oh my god, he's here. Penn Badgley (You, Gossip Girl, host of Podcrushed) joins Nicole to discuss why people are infatuated by his serial killing character, why love is not depicted accurately in media, bringing down your walls to connect with people, and the existential insecurities he had when dating. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Bringing Down Your Walls (w/ Penn Badgley)

Comedian Ketra Long joins Nicole to tell the story about how she got caught cheating twice in her relationship. She also shares the time she convinced Ne-Yo to come see her stand-up show, which she proceeded to absolutely bomb. Ketra teaches Nicole how she manages to get flown out of the country for expensive dates, plus talks about her first kiss and first fingering.  This is a wild episode, folks.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Caught Cheating... Twice! (w/ Ketra Long)

Co-star Aaron Jennings (Grand Crew) and Nicole discuss grade school romances, talking finances with your partner, the benefits of dating an older man, and that iconic Oscar #slap.  Aaron shares a wild date story involving a stalking ex-boyfriend, a gang member, and a gun. Plus, Nicole's crazy neighbor pays her a visit at 3:00AM. For more Aaron Jennings, stream Grand Crew on Peacock, and the upcoming A League of Their Own TV series on Amazon Prime. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


A Stalking Ex-Boyfriend, a Gang Member, and a Gun (w/ Aaron Jennings)

Co-star Grasie Mercedes (Grand Crew, Access Hollywood) reflects on her 14-year relationship and the breakthrough she had in therapy which led to her divorce. They also discuss getting back into the dating scene at a later age, why white men love drinking milk, and what it means to Afro-Latina. Plus, Nicole shares her rave review for a Broadway show which featured many exposed dicks.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Having a Drama-Free Divorce (w/ Grasie Mercedes)

Stripper and exotic entertainer Vanity Jay chats with Nicole about all things stripping and sex work. She shares the complicated nature of dating both customers and strippers from clubs, the time she accidentally burned herself lighting her pussy on fire, and the challenges of dating a jealous partner. Plus, they help give advice to a listener seeking sex position recommendations for their partner who isn't the most endowed. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Setting Yourself on Fire (w/ Vanity Jay)

Comedian and writer Sudi Green (SNL, I Love That For You) joins Nicole to discuss their awkward encounters with celebrities, having baby fever,  and farting in bed with your lover. Sudi shares a horrible hookup story where her partner was into "intense sex", but failed to preform. Nicole realizes she's horny for magic. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Farting in Bed with your Lover (w/ Sudi Green)

Drag queen and reigning Miss Congeniality Kornbread "The Snack" Jeté (RuPaul's Drag Race S14) joins Nicole for a live episode, where they discuss her favorite kind of dick, the bad jobs she had before drag, and the men in prison who are contacting Nicole. Then, they answer audience questions about their favorite sex toys, the weirdest compliment they've gotten on a date, and blowjob tips. For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Quit your Job (w/ Kornbread "The Snack" Jeté)

Drag queen icon Raja Gemini (winner of Drag Race S3) joins Nicole to discuss the stress of competing in the first all-winners season of RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars, why she keep her relationship off social media,  and shares all of her firsts - first kiss, handjob, and relationship. Plus, the story of why they got fired from MAC cosmetics, and how meeting RuPaul lead them to a job working on America's Next Top Model. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Keeping Relationships Off Social Media (w/ Raja Gemini)

Comedian Taylor Tomlinson chats with Nicole about using Instagram to document her panic attacks, coping with anxiety, and the time she was accused for being a catfish. Meanwhile, Nicole slept with a man who thought Black people were aliens. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Coping With Anxiety (w/ Taylor Tomlinson)

The hilarious Judy Gold joins Nicole to chat about the challenges of dating a therapist, her experience being selected as one of Time Out New York's Most Eligible Singles, the ethics of writing jokes about your partner, and the benefits of being married but living apart.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch!! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Married, but Living Apart (w/ Judy Gold)

Comedian and friend Drew Lynch (America's Got Talent S10) chats with Nicole about a harrowing bee incident they had together on tour, managing high levels of anxiety, and why female comics have such a hard time attracting men. Plus, Nicole's horny for emo Batman, and explains why she loves giving blowjobs so much. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch!! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Do Men Not Like Funny Women? (w/ Drew Lynch)

Actress Tika Sumpter (Sonic The Hedgehog 1 &amp; 2) recounts the times that boys have left her for her best friend, losing her expensive engagement ring, and meeting her partner on a Tyler Perry set.  Nicole realizes she has abandonment issues, and campaigns to be cast in Sonic the Hedgehog 3.  We're running low on dirty messages! Write Nicole something nasty and send it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch!! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Left for my Best Friend (w/ Tika Sumpter)

Actress Stephanie Beatriz (Encanto, Brooklyn Nine-Nine) chats with Nicole about leaving a 9 year relationship, dealing with bisexual erasure, and explains the scam behind the cult-like Twin Flames dating platform. Nicole recounts her wild experience hosting the Critics' Choice awards. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch!! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 


Bisexual Erasure (w/ Stephanie Beatriz)

Comedian Donnell Rawlings (Chappelle's Show, Winning Time: The Rise of the Lakers Dynasty) chats with Nicole about the powers of having a WAP, why successful Black women have the hardest time in relationships, being a throat goat, and hottest locations to meet new people. Meanwhile, Nicole gets her tiddy caught in a car window. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch!! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


How to have a WAP (w/ Donnell Rawlings)

Comedian, actress and YouTuber star Lilly Singh (A Little Late with Lilly Singh, Dollface) chats with Nicole about April Fools' Day pranks, setting up a vision board in her shower, her experience hosting a late night talk show,  and offers her tip for getting dates on Raya. Meanwhile, Nicole tries to apply to the Soho house.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch!! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


The System is Broken (w/ Lilly Singh)

If there’s anyone who loves mindless gossip more than Nicole, it’s her good pal Solomon Georgio. In fact, it’s the subject of his brand new podcast from Team Coco, The Juice!On The Juice, Solomon sources only the finest gossip stories about regular folks doing crazy s**t — no celeb headlines here! Each week he’s joined by hilarious guests such as Conan, Ira Madison III, Atsuko Okatsuka, and yes, Nicole herself! Just listen as she and Solomon dig into the wild stories that fans send in on the daily. To hear Nicole dish some of HER stories with Solomon, head on over to The Juice and listen to the entire episode. Hit subscribe, leave a great review, and have a juicy day! 


Nicole gets a special delivery of hot gossip

Actress Raven Goodwin (Single Black Female, SMILF) shares her worst first dates, the adorable story behind her picnic proposal, what she planned for her bachelorette party, and how dating long distance helped strengthen the love in her relationship.Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch!! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Mistaken Identity (w/ Raven Goodwin)

Oh my god, it’s happening. Twins Darcey and Stacy Silva (TLC's 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days, Darcey &amp; Stacey) are here! They chat with Nicole about how they were separately cast on the reality tv show, getting divorced on the same day, their plastic surgery journey, and TOM! Darcey also announces her split with Georgi, and Stacey shares details about the model who snuck into her husband's DMs in order to get onto the show. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Twin Divorce (w/ Darcey and Stacey Silva)

Drag king Tenderoni (Winner of The Drag Queen of the Year Pageant 2021) chats with Nicole about why they love older women, the challenges of performing as a drag king on your period, the scandalous story behind how they met their 12-year partner, and shares tips on how to be a flirt. Plus, Nicole reads some cringey dating app pick-up lines she's received.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Granny Chaser (w/ Tenderoni)

Danielle Pinnock (Young Sheldon, Ghosts) and Nicole get mistaken for each other... a lot.  The comedian and writer chats with Nicole about the different actors they get confused for, the grueling process of booking an acting job, and the very strange story behind how Danielle's wedding ended up taking place in a hospital ICU.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Married in a Hospital (w/ Danielle Pinnock)

Comedian and motivational speaker Jackie Fabulous joins Nicole to chat about negotiating prenups, how to gently give direction during sex, finding the funny in your flaws, and how to appear more desirable by looking less horny. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Sensitive Boys (w/ Jackie Fabulous)

Comedian Moses Storm lived in an art exhibit where he would sleep, shit, and had sex in front of an audience.  He navigates trying to find love while exhibiting, and being raided by Operation Fashion Police. Moses and Nicole also talk about shooting sex scenes for TV, preparing bits for dates, and the hookup culture on Birthright.Check out Moses's new comedy special, Trash White now on HBO Max! Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Love Exhibited (w/ Moses Storm)

Actress Shalita Grant (You, NCIS: New Orleans) talks to Nicole about her life dating an MMA fighter, her straight sex phrase, the moment she realized she was a natural at lesbian sex, and how her interest in polygamous relationships lead to her love of pole dancing. Nicole shares her blowjob trick that works every time.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Dick Tricks (w/ Shalita Grant)

Comedian Gina Yashere (The Daily Show, Bob Hearts Abishola) chats with Nicole about the adorable meet-cute story behind meeting her girlfriend at a women's festival. She also discusses the process behind working with Chuck Lorre to co-create the sitcom Bob Hearts Abishola, her non-confrontation approach to hiring a diverse writers' room, and how Different Strokes inspired her dream to come to America. Plus, Gina explains why her birthmark is a sign that she's a reincarnation of her grandmother. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Lesbianity (w/ Gina Yashere)

Actor and comedian Lamorne Morris (New Girl, Woke) is here! Lamorne teaches Nicole about the importance of playing hard to get, and how to act unavailable to attract a man. They read a listener's story about a date who ditched them at the bar to go buy wet wipes and take a shit. Plus, is TikTok now the hottest new app to find a relationship? Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter! Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 


Cumbucha (w/ Lamorne Morris)

Comedian and actress Abbi Jacobson (Broad City, The Mitchells vs the Machines) and Nicole go over a list of ways to make a man commit - is the advice solid or is it all just mind games? Plus, Abbi shares how she met her co-star Ilana Glazer, and their combined failure trying to ask out men over Facebook. She also shares her Raya success story, and her empowering message she sends when asking someone out.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter! Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


How to Make a Man Commit (w/ Abbi Jacobson)

Drag queen icon Bianca Del Rio (winner of Drag Race S6) joins Nicole to chat about the challenges of finding a partner who fits with your lifestyle, the smart system behind her meet-and-greets, getting reported on Grindr, shares secrets behind her impeccable wig lines, and throws lots of shade in between. It's a real good time - get into it! For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify:  bit.ly/wwydmdrag Check out our best episodes of 2021!  Listen at teamcoco.com/dateme2021 Black Lives Matter! Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Throwing Shade (w/ Bianca Del Rio)

Comedian and actress Chelsea Peretti (Brooklyn Nine-Nine, Sing 2) chats with Nicole about the best places you can go to meet singles, strong pick-up lines, and how she met  husband Jordan Peele through a DM.  Check out our best episodes of 2021!  Listen at teamcoco.com/dateme2021 Black Lives Matter! Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Hot Singles In Your Area (w/ Chelsea Peretti)

Drag queen Nina West (Drag Race S11, Hairspray) is just as tragically single as Nicole. They commiserate over the single life, talk about how Nina’s life drastically changed after Drag Race, the most annoying responses to get on dating apps, and absolute deal breakers in a relationship.Originally recorded May 25th, 2021. Our Best of 2021 list is here! Listen to top episodes you voted for at teamcoco.com/dateme2021 Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 


Relationship Deal Breakers (w/ Nina West)

Drag queen Heidi N Closet (RuPaul's Drag Race S12) chats with Nicole about how her dating life changed after Drag Race, the kinky things she's introduced in the bedroom, the various names she's given all of her body parts, and lady glory holes. Plus, they answer all of your questions about Valentine's day - the best food to eat,  their worst Valentine's day, and their dream hookup.Originally recorded February 12th, 2021. Our Best of 2021 list is here! Listen to top episodes you voted for at teamcoco.com/dateme2021 Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 


Naming Your Body Parts (w/ Heidi N Closet)

Friend, actress, and comedian D’Arcy Carden (The Good Place, Barry) joins Nicole live for some raw, unadulterated fun! They check in on how they've been handling the pandemie, the adorable details  behind D'Arcy's 15 year relationship, microdosing on shrooms, and oh boy really so much more. We had a big teeheehee. Originally recorded January 6th, 2021. Today is the last day to vote for our Fan Favs  list! Vote for your favorite pod episodes at teamcoco.com/datemevote Watch Nicole's new Netflix special  BBW (Big Beautiful Weirdo) Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Raw, Unadulterated Fun (w/ D'Arcy Carden)

The holidays are here! As a gift, we're releasing the livestreamed episodes from behind the paywall!  On today's episode, drag queen Naomi Smalls (RuPaul's Drag Race S8, All-Stars S4) joins Nicole to talk about her experience being a sheep farmer, how she navigated backlash from the Drag Race fandom, and the nicest dicks they've ever seen.  Plus, Naomi and Nicole answer your questions about the best food to eat before and after sex, their most awkward hookup stories, and the weirdest place they've boinked. Originally recorded November 11th 2020. We're putting together a Fan Favs episode list! Vote for your favorite pod episodes at teamcoco.com/datemevote For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Watch Nicole's new Netflix special  BBW (Big Beautiful Weirdo) Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 


The Nicest Dick I've Ever Seen (w/ Naomi Smalls)

Comedian Joyelle Nicole Johnson lived with a dominatrix. She talks about the type of clients that would visit her apartment, and the kinky 'services' she was offered. Plus, she shares how she met her husband at a funeral, making a 'dessert room' for a wedding, and the importance of couples therapy in any relationship.   Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


My Dominatrix Roommate (w/ Joyelle Nicole Johnson)

Comedian and actor Jimmy O. Yang (Silicon Valley, Love Hard) joins Nicole to tell the story of how he met his girlfriend, discusses at what point does a relationship become serious, and suggests Nicole change the name of the podcast in order to better manifest a partner. Jimmy gives acting tips and shares what he would teach in his 'practical acting' course, and Nicole's excited to have started watching The Office. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Best Relationship Ever! (w/ Jimmy O. Yang)

Comedian Aida Rodriguez was kidnapped twice as a child.  She describes her time on the run with a murderer, and how she uses her stand-up comedy to process her traumas. They also discuss dating red flags to look out for, Nicole's love for a serial killer, plus a story from a listener who dated a sock-sniffing Trump supporter. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it answered on-air. Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Kidnapped and On the Run (w/ Aida Rodriguez)

Raven-Symoné (That's So Raven) and wife Miranda Maday join Nicole to share the story of how they met, broke up, and got back together again. They discuss learning to love your real self as well as your persona self, organizing a micro wedding during COVID, and Raven shares her experience co-officiating a wedding with Cardi B. Miranda suggests to Nicole how she can find love at OA meetings. This podcast is nominated for a People's Choice Award! Please vote at  bit.ly/VoteWWYDM Black Lives Matter.  Click here for a list of ways you can support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Real Life vs Your Persona Life (w/ Raven-Symoné and Miranda Maday)

Friend and writer Shannon Joy Rodgers (Jimmy Kimmel Live!, Ellen) joins Nicole to talk about roller-blading, the costs and challenges of planning a COVID-safe wedding right now, and how she found her husband by sliding into the DMs. Plus, in a podcast first, Nicole receives a musical answer to the question "Would you date me?". The podcast is nominated for a People's Choice Award! Please vote at  bit.ly/VoteWWYDM Black Lives Matter.  Click here for a list of ways you can support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


From DM to Marriage (w/ Shannon Joy Rodgers)

Comedian Rob Corddry (Childrens Hospital, Hot Tub Time Machine) joins Nicole to discuss cannibalism, the art of taking a good profile picture, Rob gives advice on Nicole's dating app bio, and they both geek out over cars. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it answered on-air. The podcast is nominated for a People's Choice Award! Please vote at  bit.ly/VoteWWYDM Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


The Art of Taking a Profile Pic (w/ Rob Corddry)

Friend and writer Gilli Nissim (The Other Two, A.P Bio) joins Nicole to discuss breaking up in the middle of the pandemic, her experience speed dating over Zoom, and traveling abroad for hookups.  Nicole wishes that she can go on Birthright. Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Zoom Speed Dating (w/ Gilli Nissim)

Comedian and writer Brittani Nichols (A Black Lady Sketch Show) chats with Nicole about recognizing different adult attachment styles in relationships, how her relationship sparked by a DM slide asking "Who's that zaddy?", and discusses why it's healthy to date multiple people at once. Plus, Nicole plays dead on a date.Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Attached (w/ Brittani Nichols)

Filmmaker Carter Ray (The Change Up) chats with Nicole about their experience going through a 2nd puberty while on hormones, the challenges they faced coming out while attending a Christian high school, and the difference in dating women as a lesbian vs as a trans man. Carter shares his goal to reshape the representation of trans people seen on-screen.Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 


Second Puberty (w/ Carter Ray)

Does the couple that poop together, stay together? Grammy-award winning singer-songwriter Meghan Trainor and brother Ryan Trainor (co-hosts of Workin on It') discuss the special relationship that's bonded over pooping. Meghan confesses she had 2 toilets installed in her bathroom so her and her husband can poop together. Ryan shares how the pandemic lead him to sobriety. They also discuss dating red flags, the importance of being regular, and the effects on dating if you avoid social media. Plus, Nicole tries a Sybian.Black Lives Matter. For a list of over 100 different ways to support racial justice, click here. Follow Nicole Byer:Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter:@nicolebyerInstagram:@nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Pooping Together (w/ Meghan Trainor and Ryan Trainor)

Drag queen Crystal Methyd (RuPaul's Drag Race S12) joins Nicole to chat about their most romantic date, getting the 'sex talk' at the age of 22, and debates if you should text your date back immediately. They also discuss their journey into drag, finding their drag aesthetic, and their experience shooting Drag Race in the middle of the pandemic. Meanwhile, Nicole is worried her Netflix show is cockblocking her.Thank you to all that have supported the show through 200 episodes!Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see linktr.ee/nationalresourceslistFollow Nicole Byer:Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter:@nicolebyerInstagram:@nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746


Awkward Sex Talk (w/ Crystal Methyd)

Comedian Ms. Pat chats with Nicole about her time in jail for drug trafficking, shares the secrets behind her 28 years of marriage, and offers advice on how to play hard to get. Plus, Ms. Pat's not happy that Nicole's sleeping around with random audience members, so she decides to set Nicole up with a man. 
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Playing Hard to Get (w/ Ms. Pat)

Full-service sex worker Alexa Eason shares about her life as an escort. She teaches Nicole about BDSM, the relationship risks involved with sex work, Instagram's censoring of fat bodies, and the dreaded "Yelp for Escorting" sites where escorts are ranked against each other. Alexa gives advice for anyone looking to get started doing sex work.
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Yelp for Escorts (w/ Alexa Eason)

Comedian Justin Martindale joins Nicole to discuss how their 'summer of love' has been disappointingly dry for the both of them. Justin shares the time he got catfished by a cop, how he deals with chucklefuckers while touring, and the craziness behind the #FreeBritney movement. Plus, what's up with these people getting duct taped on airplanes? 
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Catfish Catcher (w/ Justin Martindale)

Drag queen and choreographer Laganja Estranja (RuPaul's Drag Race S6) joins Nicole to discuss her truth coming out as trans, finding confidence in self-love, the thrill of sucking dick in the high school locker room, and getting off on Grindr messages. Plus, Laganja discusses the injuries she sustains stunting, and answers if she would participate in a future season of RPDR All Stars.
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Sucking D in the Locker Room (w/ Laganja Estranja)

Drag queen of Scots Lawrence Chaney (winner of RPDR UK S2) chats with Nicole about his dating live after winning Drag Race, how he got banned from Tinder for 'catfishing' as himself, and pitches to host the UK version of Nailed It!.  Meanwhile, Nicole's plans for a Hot Girl Summer have gone awry. 
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Hot Girl Summer (w/ Lawrence Chaney)

Comedian and actress Maysoon Zayid was born with cerebral palsy. She chats with Nicole about some of the cruel comments she receives about her disability, the struggles comedians of color face in Hollywood, and shares her wild industry rejection stories. Maysoon also advocates why speed-dating is a cost-effective and efficient way of finding love, and helps break down the current Israeli-Palestinian conflict.
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I got 99 problems... palsy is just one (w/ Maysoon Zayid)

'Psychic to the stars' and best selling author Laura Day is here to teach Nicole all about intuition and how to develop it. She discusses how she realized she had intuitive powers, coaches how to be intuitive about your own love life, and how to train your pleasure receptors and send out pleasure signals to a potential mate.
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How to be Intuitive About Your Love Life (w/ Laura Day)

What a treat. Grammy nominated English musician Yola is here! Nicole and Yola chat about the difference in racism when dating in the UK vs the US, how crying on her motorcycle back from her mother's funeral inspired her songwriting, and how sitting on the toilet can be the best way to solve creative challenges.
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Problem Solving on the Toilet (w/ Yola)

Actor Harvey Guillén (What We Do in the Shadows) is single but not quite ready to mingle. He discusses why he guards his profession from his dating life, how he found love on Instagram, and the important need for space in any relationship. Nicole reads some wild dating app profiles.
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Thriving Alone (w/ Harvey Guillén)

Nicole’s close friend Francesca Amber (host of Law of Attraction Changed my Life) talks about the struggles of being a mother of twins, explains the latest fad of 'co-parenting', and describes how to use the Law of Attraction to manifest your dream person. Meanwhile, Nicole counts down the days until her dick appointment.
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Being a Single Mom of 3 (w/ Francesca Amber)

Cat Hollis led the 2020 Portland Stripper Strike. Here, she explain why it happened and her work for equitable workspaces in the adult industry. Cat discusses the costs of being cute, shares the common challenges people face when dating a stripper, and gives advice on how to feel sexy even after a rejection.
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